S3 E17 - Fine vs. Favorite: Why “Good Enough” Isn’t Your Finish Line

In this episode, Sophia breaks down the powerful realization that most women aren’t struggling because their lives are falling apart — they’re struggling because everything is fine. And fine can be the most dangerous place to stay.

Through the lens of the Favorite Life Wheel, Sophia shares why so many of us hover at a “7 out of 10” in multiple areas, how seven becomes a safe hiding place, and why it often signals avoidance rather than contentment. She explains the emotional, energetic, and practical costs of settling for fine and walks through what it actually looks like to move into a life that feels aligned, energized, expansive, and truly yours.

You’ll hear real-life examples—from career shifts, dissolving misaligned offers, collapsing timelines, and even moving states—to illustrate what happens when you stop choosing predictable comfort and start choosing your favorite life. Sophia also highlights the fears, mental load stories, and hidden narratives (“I should just be grateful…” or “Wanting more is greedy…”) that keep women from stepping into their 8s, 9s, and 10s.

She closes with powerful reflection questions, a mantra to anchor into (“Fine is familiar, but favorite is fulfilling”), and an invitation to name the dreams you’ve been too scared to say out loud.

If you’re ready to shift from autopilot to intentional living — and from fine to fulfilling — this episode will light the path.

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Transcript

Sophia Hyde (00:01.592)
Hello, welcome back. This week, we're gonna talk about this aha moment concept I had recently where I realized that so many people feel content living in fine, but let's talk about the difference between living a fine life and living your favorite life. I mean, that's the name of this podcast, right? Unleash Your Favorite Self.

So we're gonna talk about what is the difference between being fine, living a fine life and living your favorite life. The reality is most of the people that I work with, the women that I coach, their lives are fine. They're doing well. They're stable, they're strong. A lot of times when I do a favorite life wheel assessment with somebody, which if you still haven't...

done one of those before, grab it in the app. For free, it's a download, you can get it. But when they do their wheels, a lot of their areas are at a seven or an eight out of 10, whether it's their family or their self care, their relationship with their body, their career. And when you look at that, it looks pretty good like.

dang man like I'm at a seven you know what though I feel like seven is the kiss of death seven I actually one time heard somebody when they were talking about the wheel I heard another coach say that she won't let people choose the number seven when doing an assessment with them and I have not had the audacity to go that far but I I pick up what she's laying down okay because seven is this number

that could feel safe. And it feels safe because you're like, I'm better than average. I'm doing pretty well. But there is still more that I want, right? So if you were to say an eight or a nine, now you're creeping closer to that 10 and you have to be, feel maybe a little more honest with yourself. And you're scared to say that, like things aren't really this good. But to six, five, you know, this starts feeling a little bit too mediocre, right?

Sophia Hyde (02:25.122)
So seven has this way of feeling better than average without too close to the top. And I think a lot of times it can be a cop out. The only time I will ever call somebody out on it is if they pick way too many sevens. A couple of sevens, I'm good. But if you have a lot of sevens on your wheel, I will start giving that pushback to see if you're just afraid to commit to how low or high something else might be. But this sense of seven,

there are most of my clients do come to me with probably seven being their average. They might have some fives and sixes, they might have some eights and nines, but if we were average it out, their life is at a seven out of 10. That is actually where most people come into one-on-one coaching, in my experience, for the people that I work with. And I wanna talk about what is that? And what is the difference? And how do we move our lives from being fine to actually

unleashing our favorite self. First of all, I think we have to admit like how did we get there? What does fine feel like? I think fine is when you're living your life in a way that things feel predictable, they feel comfortable. You don't really have anything to complain about. A lot of things are just on autopilot. Maybe there's a voice inside your head. Like I shouldn't want more than this, right? Like I should just be grateful with this, which is

concept I've talked about before that I call the shrink back where we're like scared to actually name it ten in our life. But I think the important question to ask yourself is is this my finish line? Am I okay with being fine? And if not, then you have to acknowledge that fine is actually a starting point. It's where you're beginning because your favorite life, your 10 out of 10, that's actually the end goal.

Unfortunately though, fine can, it can lack a motivation for change because humans in general are motivated by pain and the thing about living in that seven life is you might not be feeling very much pain. Things are okay, things are good. Which can make pursuing that favorite life a little scary.

Sophia Hyde (04:51.082)
Now, what's the difference between favorite life? How does that look different? Well, if you're living your favorite life, it's a very intentional way of moving through the world. It feels very expansive. You feel deeply aligned, which last week we talked about, you know, last week's episode was living on an aligned life. There is a deep sense of satisfaction. And my experience with people who are living at these higher numbers, lots of eights, nines and some tens.

you're going to have more energy to just whatever you're doing, even if it's just reading your book. It doesn't matter the way you move through the world, it's like your own life, the way you move through the world just creates energy, like momentum. The difference between going uphill versus going downhill, just going through your day to day.

energizes you because you're excited, you're lit up, you're in joy. There's a deep sense of satisfaction. It's a very expansive way of moving through the world. Many people stop at that seven, eight mark because they are, there's a few reasons we're gonna talk about them. One of them though, I think is that they're scared of what it might take to close that gap. I've gotten basically, this is a great way of thinking about it. I've gotten all the way to seven.

And it's like, this has been pretty, this is how far I got with it being easy, or maybe not always easy, but at least like the tools that I had, like the resources that I had, like this is as far as I could get. And that last gap, a lot of times I feel like the difference between that seven and that 10 is now in order to close that gap, it's gonna start costing, it's gonna be more expensive.

Maybe not financially, sometimes financially, but I'm talking about expensive as in what is it gonna cost you. Closing that gap is where maybe this is where the discomfort has to start setting in. The people you might have to disappoint. The people who might judge you. Sometimes I also think there is a...

Sophia Hyde (07:05.418)
a fear of like a voice in your head saying I shouldn't want more than this. Look how great my life already is. I should be grateful for all of this. Like what does it say about me as a person that I want more than this because I'm doing fine. So is this is this speak bad of me? Am I being greedy to want more than I already have?

I think that,

At the end of the day, it is fear. It is fear that is somehow connected. Either the people you're gonna have to disappoint, the changes you're gonna have to make. Like you've gotten this far, but to close the gap, like what is it gonna cost you? And I think that that fear of whatever the thing is it's gonna cost you is what holds most people back from the fine life to the favorite life. It could also be, I will say this too, it could also be a mental load issue.

So you might have a story in your head that this is good, I'm fine. To close that gap would be a lot of work or I'd have to make a lot of plan or it would take up a lot of my mental space or I have to rearrange things. And like, I just don't have the energy. Like I'm maxed out, my life requires so much of me. I'm good here, cause to do more would just take too much. And I highly disagree with that. Although I don't recommend changing, trying to change all your spokes at the same time. I've often...

preached and reiterated one goal at a time, one habit at a time, right? That's how we change our lives. But you might be surprised again, going back to last week's episode of Living in Aligned Life, how much easier your life can get the higher you elevate and expand. You have the capacity to hold more and do more if you don't have those things working against you, right? Like.

Sophia Hyde (08:58.316)
Again, I just mentioned a few minutes ago, the difference between climbing uphill versus going downhill. Going downhill is so much easier, right? And yet I think for many people, they recognize that to close that gap, they might have to climb uphill a little bit. And the amount of work or effort or energy they have to put into that feels too exhausting to them. And I promise you, there is a way to...

to get it done, not that anything in life is ever easy, but it probably doesn't have to be as hard as you're making it. Or if you just do the hard thing, maybe it's the hard conversation you have to have. I love that quote and I don't even know where I heard it from because I heard it so long ago, but it was something along the lines of so much of our piece is on the other side of one 10 minute difficult conversations, right? It might be like one really difficult conversation you have to have and then it's gonna unleash all this.

momentum towards a life change of some kind?

And so let's think of some, let's look at some examples. What am I talking about? Of somebody that's fine versus somebody that is living their favorite life.

Let's look at numbers. Financially speaking, $100,000 does not go as far as it did 10 or 20 years ago, right? So for most families, if you look up the statistics across a majority of the states, somewhere around, it takes somewhere around $200,000 to live what many would call it a comfortable lifestyle. And in my experience, I'm talking with a lot of my friends, if you're under that number, you're sacrificing

Sophia Hyde (10:45.842)
somewhere. Maybe you're not doing the vacations or maybe you're not saving for your retirement or maybe you're putting off this that or the other. Like there's something somewhere that if you had a $200,000 income you would be doing this thing right. At that number you can live pretty comfortably in most states.

So for a lot of people, I see them say like, gosh, I should be so grateful, right? We make $200,000, this should be enough. Well, what if you gave yourself permission to dream? And what is that number that feels so big for you? So many of my clients are business owners, right? And so what would happen if you increased your income to 500,000? And that might be a number that scares them, right? Like I've never made $500,000 before.

Where would that even come from? What would I even do with that money? But then if that's your favorite life, now all of sudden you can start to dream. Okay, take the 500K, subtract out how much you would pay in taxes of that, because you're gonna be a higher income bracket, right? So this would be my take home pay. And if I had this much, what would that allow me to do? Well, you probably would have margin, breathing room, new experiences.

things you could support or give back to, things that you could do either for your community or for fun or for travel or for saving. There's a big difference between living at 200 and living at 500, but a lot of people don't even dream to that 500 number because it either feels impossible, it feels intimidating, but that's the stuff I'm talking about is dreaming big enough to say, if I...

did something beyond what I thought was possible for myself. What could happen? In business, I will see people, or even work, I think this would apply to a career too, this isn't just with the centers, but like people have a job that they're like, this is good. I'm proud of what I've done, I'm proud of what I've accomplished. Everything's going fine. It's fine, everything's fine. And if you're okay with that, like, I'm not telling you you need to change.

Sophia Hyde (13:07.874)
But if there is a little voice inside of you saying something, speaking to you that it could be better than this, favorite life might look like a job or a business that lights you up, compensates you really well for your time, can support the lifestyle you crave to be living. And it doesn't just feel like you're checking a box or showing up to work, but you're motivated and excited and invigorated to be doing the work you're doing. And that doesn't

I know that I live in, sometimes it feels like a little bit of a bubble, right? Because my job is so fun, I get to help people. But there, I have clients who have really on the outside, unsexy jobs. But then I'm thinking of IT plumbing, right? These companies don't seem very like, yeah, that's what I grew up wanting to do one day. But then when we get into it,

It really does. It really can be exciting because they're like, have employees and they're providing jobs and incomes for families and making it possible for people to buy their first home and they're keeping people safe or they're helping others have their dream home. Like there's so many things that even in a quote unquote like boring unsexy job that are actually really fucking cool, right?

And so are you living in a way that the work you do in the world is lighting you up? It doesn't mean that you have to have like a job that necessarily looks sexy on the outside. It's just how you're relating to it and showing up and the way you see your role in the world. A couple of other examples, and I think you others spoke, because the difference between fine and favorite is for those of you who are in marriages or have a partner, like I can see people,

a lot of times in their marriages, like things are fine, we're good, everything's okay. But you're just like going through the motions, checking the boxes. But what would it look like if you and your partner actually felt like lovers, dreamers, that you were laughing, playing, it's like I get to live with my best friend, we're having so much fun, we're on the same page in the things that we want and we're pursuing them, like it can be exciting and joyful.

Sophia Hyde (15:31.884)
And is that the relationship that you have or the one that you crave? We could keep going. I could go through every single spoke and we could look at what is the difference between being at a seven where things are good, they're doing all right, or what could I dream that is possible for myself?

And as we start to figure out like what could our favorite life look like, what is the most we could dream for ourselves, then you have to actually ask yourself, you know, I talked about the cost of going for it, right? Like maybe the fear or the uncomfortable conversation. Maybe you'll have to change your habits. Maybe you'll have to, like I have a client right now who just.

Realized that she doesn't think it's possible to create her favorite life and stay in the job that she's in they can't coexist Right, so she's making a career change. I just thought of somebody who just did it last year or earlier this year made a huge job change major risk and But it was never gonna be possible for her to live her favorite life in that old role, right? So we talked about like the cost like what could the cost be to get from the seven to ten? But let's also reverse this What is the cost of not doing it?

What is the cost if you stay at fine? What's the cost of not closing the bridge? Where you just keep maintaining a life? You just live in a sense of...

Responsibility like you know, I'm this is what I need to be doing or maybe mediocrity Are you living with voices in your head telling you you should be happy with this or this should be enough What is the cost of staying there That's what I really want to challenge you to you if you have some areas of your life that you're just staying at sevens What is the cost

Sophia Hyde (17:36.034)
the expense you're gonna pay if you never expanded all the way to the 10. Do you wanna get to your end of your life and be like, yeah, was pretty, my life was fine. It was okay, it was good. Or do you wanna like, I mean, I just, I don't know about y'all, but I wanna leave it all out on the table. I wanna get to the end of my life and be like, man, I played full out. I maximized this one wild and precious life and I got.

and I got and gave the most that I It's like that difference of like feeling alive, you know, just, ugh, I want that invigoration feeling kind of like flowing through my veins.

Another

like reason that we can end up on this fine journey goes back to a couple of episodes ago, the difference between the default life and the intentional life. This is a very similar conversation, right? And default living is just continuing to go through the motions. And I think that that also is a lot of the reason people will end up at sevens. You're just doing what's right in front of you.

because to move into that intentionality, which if you haven't listened to that episode, I recommend it, because the opposite of living in default living is to live intentionally. I think that that's what it takes to close that gap, is to move into.

Sophia Hyde (19:05.134)
deciding that you're not going to settle for fine anymore. I thought of a couple examples of what the difference between fine and favorite could look like. I'll use my own life as the first example, which is we could have chosen to stay in Florida, right? And it would have been fine. I even did about two years ago, I did a meditation, a guided meditation with on my own. I guess I wasn't guided because I did it myself.

but my mentor had challenged me. said that she wanted, encouraged, she knew that meditation was a big part of my life and my practice. And she said to go meditate on what would be the difference between, because at that time we were fighting a lot of the fears I had of like moving and giving up everything that I had in Florida to move to a place where I didn't know anybody. And she was doing meditation on it. What would your life look like if you stayed? And what would your life look like if you took the leap?

And I did this meditation where I fast forwarded five years. And the reality was that the life that I could have lived if I stayed there was going to be a good life. It was. I could even see like in this vision, saw, we had outgrown the house we were in. So regardless, we were definitely moving houses because it didn't fit our needs anymore. But I saw us with this like beautiful home that was bigger than the one we had. We still had our, you

my family close and we had friendships and things were good. But in that vision, what I could also feel was this like this ache of what I knew was possible, but I didn't go after. It was like, it felt like settling. It could be a good life, but there was this part of me that knew it would be fine. I would be fine. We would be happy. Things would be good.

It was a good place to be. And then I did. And then I meditated on what would it be like if we took a leap and it felt invigorating and it felt adventurous. It felt like I would be able to get to the end of my life and no, I didn't have any regrets. Like I was deeply craving to take that risk. And so for me, I would have been fine if I stayed, but I needed to know.

Sophia Hyde (21:31.19)
I needed to know what it would be like if I had really pursued that dream life that my husband and wanted. And I had, right? I didn't need to leave. We were stable, life was predictable, we had a large community, I had all my family right there. There was no reason to leave. The only reason was because I want to.

was it. And that's the big scary thing when I talk about that difference between seven and 10, sometimes it's because you got as far as you could being comfortable and to close the gap you have to get really uncomfortable. And for me that's what was true. Like I had to be willing to start all over after being in one community for 30 years. And people do it every day in America. I'm not the first person to be like, I'm going to move to a new place. I get it. This is not.

super like novel, okay? It's not a big idea. America was literally built on people being like, I'm gonna move to a new country somewhere else in the world. Okay, this is not a new story. But it is an example. And then another example that I thought of was about a year ago, I had a, I did a giveaway at an event that I was doing and it was like a drawing people could enter to win a free coaching session. And I ended up drawing the name of somebody I had known.

on the peripheral for like 15 years. We had met in person several times many years ago, back in my previous life as a wedding photographer. And we stayed social media friends. So like we knew who each other were. We had never really been close, but we definitely, you know, we're like cheering on each other from afar. So I knew things about her life. I thought that I things about her life. And it looked like she was doing so amazing.

And so I remember saying to my husband, oh, you know, I'm going to go do this session, but it's going to be really fun. I'm so excited to catch up with this person, but I don't, I don't think that she'll enroll in coaching because like her life is already so amazing. I just don't, I'm, I don't know. I don't know that, that she would continue to want coaching. And then we do the call and we do the favorite life wheel. And I was like,

Sophia Hyde (23:46.402)
there was a lot of sevens and even a couple of fives. And in our conversation, it opened her eyes. She showed up to that thinking, I'm doing great. Genuinely showed up to this call being like, I live a fantastic, great life. What would I even improve? And then we did the wheel of life assessment, the favorite life wheel, and she was like, damn, I've got some gaps. I didn't even know those gaps were there. And so she ended up enrolling in coaching. And I thought, man, this is why you just have to stay curious because

I genuinely thought this girl was living her favorite life and it turned out she wasn't. I don't even think she realized she wasn't until she did the favorite life wheel assessment. And six months later, she had made so many changes, so many changes completely as a result of the coaching conversations because, this is how I'm gonna share some of these ideas with you guys because this is how you move from find a favorite. One of the things that...

we worked on a lot were some just different blind spots where you're just going through the motions. There were some different parts of her life that she kind of dreaded. Like I don't want to show up to do this particular product or service in my business and this thing I've agreed to, but they were such great opportunities with such wonderful great people that the story in her head was

I should be so lucky I get to do this. I should be so grateful. Do you know how many people in the world wish they could do this thing I have a chance to do? And so she was continuing to do it because she was supposed to enjoy it. But the reality was it was a misalignment. And that particular product in her business was not making her happy at all. She was dreading it. But then

felt bad that she dreaded it, because it was supposed to be so wonderful. And so we coached through the courage to close an entire product line in her business. I'm just trying to do some quick math in my head. It would have been about 25 % of her income the previous year. And so to say, I'm just going to cut it off, 25 % of my income gone.

Sophia Hyde (26:02.85)
and we coached through it and she ended up doing it. And do you know that as we come up to the end of the year, she's gonna end up with it so far she's on track to pretty much make exactly what she made last year, but without that product line. So she cut off 25 % of her income flow by getting rid of one service. And theoretically, like she thought she was deciding to take a pay cut so that she would just be happier because that.

things she used to do, it drained so much of her energy and she didn't look forward to it. But in the end, what ended up happening was she freed up so much energy, because the dread went away, that energy suck went away, that she was able to do so much more in the areas that she loved. So I think this energy exchange is a really important way to move from find a favorite, is to start looking at where is my energy going? What am I saying yes to? What am I doing? And do I love, all of this

Restoring my energy does it feel good or am I doing any of this from a sense of obligation? From a sense of duty from a sense of responsibility Because there's a voice in my head that's saying I should be okay with this I mean I've seen people make really big leaps leaving Jobs that other people would envy that they should enjoy I've seen people leave marriages and I'm not like advocating for divorce here I'm very happy in my marriage. That's you know, Brandon. I've been together for 20 years

But I've just seen people realize like all I'm ever gonna get from this relationship is fine and is that okay with me or do I want to know what life could be like if I was actually lit up by my relationship and then they discover entire new parts of themselves so they didn't even know we're available because sometimes you

People sometimes are looking for a reason, whether it's, this case, it was like a product line or service, right? So whether it's a marriage or a job or a friendship or whatever a thing is that we have to say no to, they're waiting for something to be a red flag. Like it needs to be bad or the husband needs to be abusive or the job needs to be just so toxic that they're, that it's destroying your mental health. It's like, sometimes we won't say no to something and walk away until it's...

Sophia Hyde (28:25.934)
horribly bad or wrong. But you can also walk away or say no to something without it being on fire first. You can just say, I think that there's better here. Actually, circling back to the Florida thing, there was actually nothing wrong. things were good there. There was nothing, when I left, wanted to leave at 18, it was because I wanted to run away from like all the.

stuff that I didn't like, right? It was, I'm gonna run away from this to go move somewhere else thinking it was gonna fix my problems, right? I chose to stay and by the time I left, I had fixed all the problems. There wasn't anything I was running away from. I was only running towards something. And sometimes people wait to be like, they want to just everything around them to be so glaringly obviously bad and on fire rather than to have the courage to just say,

I need to end this relationship because I just don't think it's right. I'm just thinking of a girlfriend I had in college who stayed with a guy for four years. I didn't love her being with him. She actually didn't talk to me for two years because I actually told her two years that I thought she was settling and it made her mad. She didn't talk to me for two years. And then later she came back and said, you and my mom are the only people who had the courage to tell me that that relationship wasn't good enough for me. And thank you. And I'm sorry I didn't talk to you for two years.

She said, but in retrospect, like, thank you for being such a good friend that you would tell me what I needed to hear. It just took me a long time to see it. Right. But ultimately the guy, he loved her, he worshiped her. He thought she was freaking amazing. And so it was like, why did I leave this guy? You think some amazing, but I could see, cause I had known her for long enough. Like I've seen you happy. I've seen you lit up. I've seen you excited. This ain't it. Like this is not you at your best. This is you.

checking boxes just because this guy like loves you so much. Is that why you stay? Right? And so fortunately like she hadn't gotten married or had any kids with him or anything. And so she was able to end it not because he did anything bad or wrong. It was just wasn't right. And now she is totally married to the most beautiful person who lights her up and who I kind of expected she'd always be with anyways. They're just.

Sophia Hyde (30:49.77)
You know, meant for each other. It's a difference. It's like getting to marry your best friend, right? Okay. I digress. That Robert Show was not in my notes. Okay. How else can you move from find a favorite? It's also about, sometimes I think the gap is also about collapsing time. Sometimes we have a story in our head that this thing we want, actually, this just happened last week. I was on a coaching call.

and a client told me her 10-year plan. So I was listening to everything she wanted over the next 10 years, and she spelled it all out. This is my 10-year plan. I listened to the whole thing, and I was like, girl, you didn't say a single thing just now that takes 10 years to create. Like, none of it. I agree with you that you're more than a month away. Like, some of this is some work and some effort, but I mean...

I think this is like a, you just told me a 10 year goal that is probably like a one or two year goal. Like, did you realize you could have all these things probably in the next year or two? And it like blew her mind. had to pause and think about that and say, it literally never crossed my mind to ask myself like, what would need to be true to have this in the next two years? She just had to collapse time and see it as a shorter term goal. And then she realized that as soon as I said it, she was like,

I could. I could have this in the next two years.

And so are you doing that to yourself? Are you just kicking a can down the road? Do you have a story in your head that something's supposed to take a long time, but if you just collapse time and ask yourself what would need to be true for this to be possible now, you can make this happen in a lot shorter amount of time. Okay, as we wrap this up, I wanna leave you guys with some food for thought. How do you move your life from fine to favorite? What are some...

Sophia Hyde (32:44.532)
action items that you can take to break out of feeling stuck in that seven world. Obviously, the first thing is to define what your favorite life is. If you haven't done that already, I mean, we've been, guys, I've been drilling this home. Did you not listen to the default versus intentional living podcast, the vision board episode? And by the way, that course is finished and it lives in the app now if you want to go grab it. But I've tried to help you guys as much as I can to...

reiterate over and over and over again how important it is to stop and define your favorite life. I wrote a whole freaking book about it, okay? So just grab that exercise out of the app, it's free, the Favorite Life Rule Assessment if you still haven't done it, define your favorite life, okay? So first of all, that's step number one, because you have to figure out what you even want. Define those 10s, and the assessment asks you to do that. What would a 10 look like in each area?

And then from there, I want you to ask yourself, is there anywhere that I'm playing small? Ask yourself, this one's really important.

In any of these areas of your life, have you convinced yourself that wanting more is greedy? That's what I see a lot. People feel like it's greedy to want more than what they have. But I genuinely believe that what you desire desires you. And so, no, it's not greedy. It's expansive. And at the very least,

Live what's possible so that other people can be motivated and inspired to follow you so they could do what's possible. Now don't go do things just because somebody told you you should want them. That's not what I'm saying. I'm talking about that still small voice inside of you that does want more but is scared that that might be greedy.

Sophia Hyde (34:33.42)
I want you to say that out loud to yourself, see if it's true, and then give yourself the permission to actually pursue it. Figure out why. Of course, you can always book a with me, but maybe just talk to some friends or family too. Just be like, I have this story in my head that to want to make more money or have a career better than the one I already have or to have a marriage better than the one I already have would be greedy because so many other people don't have that even as much as I have. And I think now that I say it out loud, it's kind of stupid, but still it's in there.

get some help figure out why that's stuck inside of you and rewrite that create a new thought pick a new thought and then I think this was really really really important is there a dream inside of you you have been scared to say out loud because I find this a lot I know I did it it took me way too long to admit to people I wanted to be a life coach I kept that one a secret because if people actually knew I could run around and do a photography business run around do a health and wellness business

But if people really knew that I wanted to be a life coach and then I didn't like do it or I failed, then I would have failed at the big important thing. But if I feel like these little things and like, it's not, know, no skid off my back, because I know what I meant to be doing in the world, right? I was playing small. So are there any areas of your life that what you actually want is something that feels so vulnerable and so tender that you haven't even spoken it or admitted it to yourself?

I want you to give voice, like write it down or speak it out loud or say it to somebody, that little small voice in the back of your head or the pit of your stomach that wants to be heard, give her a voice. Say it, write it, speak it, so that you can help birth her into the world.

All right, as we close, I wanna give you guys a mantra that I was writing. I was thinking about how to use some alliteration here. And I thought of this phrase, fine is familiar, but favorite is fulfilling.

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Fine is familiar, but favorite is fulfilling. Is there any area of your life that you're just doing because it feels familiar? What would it look like if it felt fulfilling? Contemplate that. And if you're feeling that nudge, that nudge, that still small voice inside of you, yeah, she has a name. She's called your favorite self. Give her a voice, unleash her. And that's what we're here to do, right?

All right, closing notes. Obviously if you want help or support, this is what I do all day long is help people close that bridge. Obviously show notes, you can book a one-on-one call, but just know aligned, the doors are open. We are currently enrolling. It closes really soon, really soon. And so that is a six month group coaching program or a hybrid of group coaching and mastermind with one-on-one coaching support.

and a retreat to Asheville. So come join us. I hope to see you there. Sending you my love. Bye bye.